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Why does sex education fail so often?
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Originally posted by mind the gap View Postthose hormones rage just as rampantly across the whole of Europe, yet the UK is (apparently) the worst nation at preventing teenage pregnancies.
Do you have any thoughts on why that may be so, or what can be done to reduce the number?
There is a much stronger religious affinity is Spain, it is almost exclusively a Catholic country, maybe that's another reason, fear of divine retribution.
Spanish Dads are likely to chop important bits off any boys that mess about with their daughters, there's another reason, simple fear of the consequences.
So there are at least three differences straight off the top of my head.
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Originally posted by mind the gap View PostGreat idea. The reality is that adolescents (of both sexes) are notoriously averse to following the 'good example' set by their parents - they would rather poke their eye out with a twig, I suspect. Don't worry, I'm being devil's advocate here. I think we are not too far apart in our views, in fact. If the 'good example' is about treating people decently and learning to value yourself as a person (to the point where - perhaps?! - this may help you exercise some control over those raging hormones!)..then great, but I think it is an uphill struggle these days. More so than in the past, when the stigma of having an illegitimate baby was much greater? Parents were less compromising? Or am I generalising too much?
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Er...I don't think she'd thank you, Rodent. However, teenagers who are hell bent on having sex, will find somewhere to do so, of course.
The Rodent
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Originally posted by Rodent1 View PostOr educate them (in the broadest sense of the term - by example)
Originally posted by Rodent1 View Postie At 12/13 i do not think it appropiate for my daughter to be in her bedroom alone with her boyfriend, let alone have him stay the night in the same room let alone same bed! As for tapping on the bedroom door with a packet of condoms, i think you know what my opinion of that would be.
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Originally posted by PI Guy View Postat the end of the day, the legalities of the situation never even comes into their head. That is reality!
Who here disagrees with the cervical cancer injections on 12 year olds cause it encourages sexual activity?
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Originally posted by PI Guy View Postat the end of the day, the legalities of the situation never even comes into their head. That is reality!
and better to change this than encourage more of the same irresponsibl behavior ?
Originally posted by PI Guy View PostWho here disagrees with the cervical cancer injections on 12 year olds cause it encourages sexual activity?
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Originally posted by mind the gap View PostThe principle is similar enough for it to be valid - when 'carrot' (free housing/no need to work) is removed and replaced by stick (removal of free housing/requirement to work), it makes no difference to rates of illegitimate births.
Originally posted by mind the gap View PostI can imagine that in the part of South Wales where you live and let properties, you are probably at the sharper end of this than most of the rest of us. I recognise the pattern you have described within my own extended family in the Rhondda. The only difference I have noticed is that where the grandparents are involved with bringing -up their grandchildren, happier families result.
I agree with you that for many families it is a self-perpetuating pattern and one which we should be concerned about.
It seems to me we have two main issues to address, not one. First, how can parents/teachers encourage adolescents (12-16 year olds) to delay becoming sexually active until they are older, and second, given that if that advice falls on deaf ears (as it seems doomed to, in many cases), and they are going to experiment, should we be doing everything we can to prevent them creating new life if they are too immature to care for it themselves? By 'prevent' what do we mean? Do we ground them for four years (impractical!) or supply contraception?
ie At 12/13 i do not think it appropiate for my daughter to be in her bedroom alone with her boyfriend, let alone have him stay the night in the same room let alone same bed! As for tapping on the bedroom door with a packet of condoms, i think you know what my opinion of that would be.
Originally posted by mind the gap View PostThe more I think about it, the more convinced I am that it has to start young - not just the biology lessons and not threats, necessarily, but ensuring that each child feels worth a million dollars to its parents at least - back to self-esteem? Is it a bit like the drugs issue - it's about raising confident, self-assertive kids who like and value themselves enough not to. Easier said than done, I know.
The Rodent
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Originally posted by jta View Post
Might be a case for bringing back the chastity belt.
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Originally posted by Rodent1 View PostYep agreed, just so long as they are emotionally and financially able to deal with bringing up a child let's do that ...lower the age to 12,
few other laws we are going to need to look at as well though,
like dropping marriage age to 12 as well,
and young couples need accom so all the employment laws will need to be modified (back to child labor then) so they can support new young family
Prop law, so that we can rent to 12 year old mothers,
utilities co's will have to extend credit to these youngsters in order for them to survive,
so complete over haul of the credit laws,
and parents will now no longer take responsibility for a child over the age of 12,
education - now they will have the option to leave at age 12 to start their brave new lives even more ill equipped than they are today!
and countless other reckless and non workables put in place
While we are at it - let's lower the drinking age to 12 as well, perhaps we wouldn't have so many pubs closing down then !
We are a developed nation with sensible ideals and laws in place, a return to more traditional and realistic values is the way forward not irresponsible anarchy.
Jta behave yourself
The Rodent
The age of consent, in a historical context is fairly new:-
The original age of consent, codified in English common law and later adopted by the American colonies, ranged from 10 to 12. In 1885, Britain and the states began raising the age to 16, ostensibly to protect girls' natural innocence. This moral idea was later bolstered by scientific reference to the onset of puberty.
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I was simply pointing out that laws of nature will always take precedence over the laws of man!
Might be a case for bringing back the chastity belt.
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Originally posted by jta View PostThis is all very academic, raging hormones will make a mockery of any good advice given to kids. Never mind the 'law', if their bodies are ready for making babies, their hormones will try to push them to doing just that. The statutory age of consent can only be an average at best, there are countries where the age is 14, in others girls have been married off as young as 12. In nature an animal becomes sexually active when it's ready, why should anyone think that humans are different?
If we didn't feed our kids as well as we do then the age of puberty would probably rise, everybody seems to believe that girls are reaching menarche a lot earlier than fifty years ago, then the age of 16 for consent was probably justified, today, practically all of them are fully past their puberty by the age of fourteen, boys and girls. The only advantage I can see to sex education is to teach them the mechanics of the skill. That's something I had to learn for myself. Oh my! I remember it well!
I agree about the raging hormones jta, however, (presumably) those hormones rage just as rampantly across the whole of Europe, yet the UK is (apparently) the worst nation at preventing teenage pregnancies.
Do you have any thoughts on why that may be so, or what can be done to reduce the number?
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at the end of the day, the legalities of the situation never even comes into their head. That is reality!
Who here disagrees with the cervical cancer injections on 12 year olds cause it encourages sexual activity?
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Originally posted by jta View PostThis is all very academic, raging hormones will make a mockery of any good advice given to kids. Never mind the 'law', if their bodies are ready for making babies, their hormones will try to push them to doing just that. The statutory age of consent can only be an average at best, there are countries where the age is 14, in others girls have been married off as young as 12. In nature an animal becomes sexually active when it's ready, why should anyone think that humans are different?
If we didn't feed our kids as well as we do then the age of puberty would probably rise, everybody seems to believe that girls are reaching menarche a lot earlier than fifty years ago, then the age of 16 for consent was probably justified, today, practically all of them are fully past their puberty by the age of fourteen, boys and girls. The only advantage I can see to sex education is to teach them the mechanics of the skill. That's something I had to learn for myself. Oh my! I remember it well!
Yep agreed, just so long as they are emotionally and financially equipped to deal with bringing up a child let's do that ...lower the age to 12,
few other laws we are going to need to look at as well though,
like dropping marriage age to 12 as well,
and young couples need accom so all the employment laws will need to be modified (back to child labor then) so they can support new young family
Prop law, so that we can rent to 12 year old mothers,
utilities co's will have to extend credit to these youngsters in order for them to survive,
so complete over haul of the credit laws,
and parents will now no longer take responsibility for a child over the age of 12,
education - now they will have the option to leave at age 12 to start their brave new lives even more ill equipped than they are today!
and countless other reckless and non workables put in place
While we are at it - let's lower the drinking age to 12 as well, perhaps we wouldn't have so many pubs closing down then !
We are a developed nation with sensible ideals and laws in place, a return to more traditional and realistic values is the way forward not irresponsible anarchy.
Jta behave yourself
The Rodent
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Originally posted by Rodent1 View PostThat was "work for your cash" not " removal of free housing" ....
The Rodent
I can imagine that in the part of South Wales where you live and let properties, you are probably at the sharper end of this than most of the rest of us. I recognise the pattern you have described within my own extended family in the Rhondda. The only difference I have noticed is that where the grandparents are involved with bringing -up their grandchildren, happier families result.
I agree with you that for many families it is a self-perpetuating pattern and one which we should be concerned about.
It seems to me we have two main issues to address, not one. First, how can parents/teachers encourage adolescents (12-16 year olds) to delay becoming sexually active until they are older, and second, given that if that advice falls on deaf ears (as it seems doomed to, in many cases), and they are going to experiment, should we be doing everything we can to prevent them creating new life if they are too immature to care for it themselves? By 'prevent' what do we mean? Do we ground them for four years (impractical!) or supply contraception?
The more I think about it, the more convinced I am that it has to start young - not just the biology lessons and not threats, necessarily, but ensuring that each child feels worth a million dollars to its parents at least - back to self-esteem? Is it a bit like the drugs issue - it's about raising confident, self-assertive kids who like and value themselves enough not to. Easier said than done, I know.
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This is all very academic, raging hormones will make a mockery of any good advice given to kids. Never mind the 'law', if their bodies are ready for making babies, their hormones will try to push them to doing just that. The statutory age of consent can only be an average at best, there are countries where the age is 14, in others girls have been married off as young as 12. In nature an animal becomes sexually active when it's ready, why should anyone think that humans are different?
If we didn't feed our kids as well as we do then the age of puberty would probably rise, everybody seems to believe that girls are reaching menarche a lot earlier than fifty years ago, then the age of 16 for consent was probably justified, today, practically all of them are fully past their puberty by the age of fourteen, boys and girls. The only advantage I can see to sex education is to teach them the mechanics of the skill. That's something I had to learn for myself. Oh my! I remember it well!
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