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    Woman landlord keeps contacting me

    Hi, I am a former private rental tenant and my ex-landlord (a woman in her mid 40s) keeps contacting me for sex/relationship issues. I live with my wife and 3 children in a housing association property. We rented from her for about 5 and a half years with no issues and even during the changeover to Universal Credit she helped us and never once complained about delayed payments, late rent etc. Due to my wife's health/disability we had decently high priority for social housing and were bidding on council properties most of the time we were with her. End of last year we were offered a 3 bed with a local HA and accepted and moved in during the relaxing of restrictions around October. Since then the landlord has kept in contact with me via whatsapp and keeps trying to rekindle the situation we had with her when she was our landlord, she had come onto me several times and we ended up having some fun and even my wife liked her and we had a threesome one time (this was like 2 and a half years ago) but i would regularly "sex text" with the landlord as well.

    The problem here is that i have since converted to Islam and I am trying to live an Islamic lifestyle and i am terrified if i get back involved with her it might collapse my marriage or something. The way i look at the world now is a whole lot different from back then and she knows this and knows i became a Muslim but her attitude is more like "Yeah mate everyone's a Muslim till it comes to having fun times", "half the Muslims i know still smoke weed" and this type of thing, she kind of thinks im not serious and still want her.

    I owed her a final months rent when we moved because when you're on Universal Credit they will not pay "housing benefit on 2 properties" so if you move you always have to leave a months rent behind, so this was the reason we stayed in contact, she said she doesn't even care about the final months rent but i told her it's part of my religion that she always treated us with respect and courtesy and never oppressed us so it's only right that i return the same treatment to her and pay her the final month but every time i bring it up and offer a payment plan or whatever she brushes it off and changes the subject back to sex talk and when can we meet up. I am quite well built and she will keep commenting on my back muscles and how she wants to dig her nails in again and scratch it and all this stuff. I have half of the rent in cash to give her and the other half at the end of this month and i don't have bank details for her because i always paid in cash. I don't want to bluntly and rudely tell her "go away" and offend her because i still like her as a friend but i cannot do the same behaviour as before any more because of my religion. What should i do?

    #2
    Is this a wind up? Pay her the money you owe and stop contacting her. Sounds unlikely you don't have her bank details but you must have her address so either put it through her door or get your wife or a friend to arrange it. You don't have to be rude, just tell her you're not interested and please stop contacting you.

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      #3
      Sounds like a bad scene.

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        #4
        If not a wind-up (probably, IMHO ), write (letter/email, keep copy) to landlord a cease a desist letter concerning her harassment of you, mentioning it is a criminal offence. Keep records and evidence on to-date and ongoing ASB.
        I am legally unqualified: If you need to rely on advice check it with a suitable authority - eg a solicitor specialising in landlord/tenant law...

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          #5
          Would should you do?
          grow up and post your rubbish on Mumsnet is my advice.

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            #6
            In order to reply properly I need to see a) photos of the back muscles in question, b) confirmation that your wife has full knowledge of prior liaisons (film of her receiving the news would be helpful) and c) samples of the texts exchanged (well I thought I would play along and there is not much else going on today)
            Unshackled by the chains of idle vanity, A modest manatee, that's me

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              #7
              I think mumsnet might be the better forum you . . . where you will get absolutely shredded. Block delete and move on 🤣

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                #8
                Think it was for 1st April but missed the date by a month.

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                  #9
                  But if anyone knows who he is I can lend his wife my bloodless castraters... 😅

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                    #10
                    I believe that a blunt, rusty, carving kmife is more traditional.

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                      #11
                      If I remember correctly the Bobbit approach backfired slightly. She should have fed it to the dog.

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                        #12
                        Originally posted by theartfullodger View Post
                        If not a wind-up (probably, IMHO ), write (letter/email, keep copy) to landlord a cease a desist letter concerning her harassment of you, mentioning it is a criminal offence. Keep records and evidence on to-date and ongoing ASB.
                        But i don't want to come across as nasty and upset her, anything formal will give her that impression. I'm prepared to meet her and give her the cash or posting it is an option but i don't like sending cash in the mail. As it stands i've kind of just been distancing myself from her but she will often write "u alive? xx" if i don't respond or take long to respond to messages.

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                          #13
                          I'm curious.
                          during this threesome, where did the disabled wife go? Top, middle or bottom?

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                            #14
                            I'd get some advice from your mosque.
                            When I post, I am expressing an opinion - feel free to disagree, I have been wrong before.
                            Please don't act on my suggestions without checking with a grown-up (ideally some kind of expert).

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                              #15
                              Send me the money, I will ensure she get's it. lol

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